It might sound short — and that's exactly the point. In just a few minutes face to face, you already pick up a huge amount: tone, humor, energy, how easily the conversation flows.
Why so little time is enough
A first impression forms within seconds, and the rest of the conversation mostly confirms or refines it. Three to seven minutes is usually enough to feel whether there's something worth exploring further.
The format removes the pressure
Since the time is limited and set in advance, no one has to force a conversation that isn't working. Moving on to the next person is part of the format — no awkwardness, no explanation needed.
How a night actually runs
Check-in and a short briefing, then a series of 3-to-7-minute face-to-face chats. A signal ends the round. You move on. In one evening you meet several people instead of spending a week negotiating a coffee.
At the end, you mark who you want to see again. A match exists only if the interest is mutual.
Who this works for
It helps if messaging drags on, if a first coffee feels heavy, or if you want a clear answer the same night. It’s a poor fit if you want a long dinner as the very first step.
FAQ
Isn’t 3 minutes too short? It’s enough for tone, humor, and energy. Dinner comes after the filter, not before.
What if there’s no match? Nothing to explain. You simply met several people in one night.
Do I need a pitch? No. One simple question and real listening are enough.
For a first meetup that isn’t a sit-down interview, read why dancing breaks the ice better. More guides on the blog.
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